Everything speaks if we are paying attention. Being a great leader, spouse, and friend means being an "Olympic Listener". Be a sponge, open to everything. Be the last one to speak. This is part of what Being the Sun is about. Giving people what they need. It is also knowing that what Sun is to some people, may be Salt to others. Thus, it is important to understand the benefits of being a good listener and help you Be The Sun in all situations.
Improved Relationships and Cooperation
If you listen intently to those talking to you, they will do the same for you. They will start gravitating towards you if you are giving them the attention they desire by listening. This helps improve relationships as you now both understand each others' wants or needs and can build off of that. Improved cooperation will give life to every situation as you will start to build off each other, leading to greater, more positive outcomes.
When you are a positive and active listener to someone speaking, you begin to gain the trust of the person talking. This leads to mutual respect and trust and the high chance for authentic listening to be reciprocated. The more the person speaking believes you are genuinely listening and staying connected, the more they will trust you. Greater trust means less chance of negative energy and Being the Salt in situations.
Building off the last two, once you improve relationships and gain more trust from good listening, the more confident you will become around them and possibly their peers. The better the listener you are, the more you'll understand and absorb what they are saying. This will lead to more energized responses, and since you have an improved relationship and greater trust, they will reciprocate with good listening. With an inspired confidence, an uplifted self-esteem and a better self-image can follow. The boosted confidence from being an olympic listener can help you Be the Sun to those around you.
Being an olympic listener in situations where you are trying to solve a problem with multiple people involved is extremely important. Listening actively and positively will help develop collaborative conversations in which solutions will be found faster. These collaborative conversations that come from good listening will also help build trust between members, leading to more effective problem solving.
Briefer, Less Confusing Conversations
When you talk more than you listen, you can misinterpret the conversation completely, leading to you saying the wrong thing. This is not what a positive energizer wants to do in any conversation. When you listen more than you talk, it leads to you saying the right things rather than wrong. This is because you can actually interpret what the speaker is saying and from there you can make an educated response. When you listen and absorb the information, you will understand them better, which in turn, leads to briefer and more positively impacting conversations.
New Perspectives = More Knowledge
When listening to others, we get to understand the situation from their point of view. When we listen really well to what they are saying, we can gain new perspectives and new conclusions to present problems. Listening well to others and gaining their perspective can change the way you saw something as well. The new sense of perspective will lead to you being more open to hearing others opinions, thus becoming an even better listener and gaining more knowledge.
Practice, Practice, Practice
Knowing all the benefits of being an olympic listener is nice and all, but the biggest thing to achieving this goal is by continuously practicing. Try and rate yourself on how well you were absorbing information in conversation on a daily basis. See if you have improved, and if you have, continue to build and gravitate towards the positive energy that olympic listening produces. If you aren't seeing improvement, continue to practice, be compassionate, authentic, and kind. This will only help your listening become better as you will uplift their spirits and thus, they will speak with the same energy you are giving off. Dr. Harry Cohen says that in order to achieve peak olympic listening, we must act like a sponge and absorb as much information as we can. All it takes is practice!